Finding Self Love

Finding self love is a difficult journey, it took me most of my life to learn to love myself and even now it’s still a struggle sometimes. For me, the most important part about learning self love was acceptance, you need to accept your “flaws” and realise that NO ONE is perfect.

Accepting that my depression and anxiety is a part of me was the first step, mental illness does not define you, it sculpts you into the beautiful and unique person you are. We all have our struggles, and you are not alone in suffering. It’s important to acknowledge that you’re allowed days of sadness, self love does not mean you have to be 100% all day every day. You can spend a day in bed with a film and a cuppa’ and still have self love.

In order to find out why you don’t already have self love you need to figure out what it is that makes you NOT love yourself. Is it something you’re doing or not doing? For me, I experienced the most self hate when my diet was dismal, I used food as an excuse to hate myself and my body but I also used it as a coping mechanism and it just became a spiral of self hate.

I found the pattern between the type of foods I was eating and how I felt (sometimes a journal is a good way of finding what causes your self hate) and it came to a point where I just had enough. Going vegan was my saving grace. Going vegan means I now easily consume my 5 a day, my meals are packed of vital minerals and vitamins and it’s all guilt free. I don’t have to feel guilty or upset when eating any of it, I can truly enjoy what I’m eating now. I am proud of the food I eat and I am proud of my body.

Don’t get me wrong, I still eat junk, but not half as much as I used to and like I said before, I can now eat naughty treats without feeling guilty and therefore not hating myself for eating it. I can now wholeheartedly say that I treat my body well, I fuel it with the right food and I take it out for long walks in the sunshine! Treat your body like you’d treat your pet dog (or something) and you’ll be on the path to self love.

They key is really finding a link between doing something (or wishing you would do something) and when you experience self hate, when you find a trigger you can fight it and work towards extinguishing those negative feelings and building the positive ones.

Never forget to appreciate and be grateful and go find your self love! xx

33 thoughts on “Finding Self Love”

  1. Great insightful post. I totally agree, it is so crucial to remember that “sad days” are OK. Don’t bash and beat yourself up for being human. I do think it’s also important to analyze what is bothering you and find a link. For me, I’ve found when I skip the gym and eat bad foods, I end up feeling miserable about myself. Therefore, i try my best to be active and eat foods that are GOOD for me.

  2. Figuring out how to love yourself is always great because you get to be more introspective. Finding things you don’t like/enjoy and changing them can be a great thing as well. I’m glad you’ve targeted your eating and then realize what can be done. Junk food is always good in moderation. (:

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  3. This post is so important! I couldn’t agree with you more, mental illness does not define you, it is one aspect of you and something that you can work on, but it doesn’t consume you! Self acceptance and self love is so vital, and it’s wonderful to read a post embracing all these things!

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  4. This is a wonderful post. I’m not vegetarian or vegan for that matter but self love is such a broad concept with so many different elements which will be different for everyone and I’m glad to hear you’ve found something that makes you feel good. I’ve definitely been keeping an eye on what I eat more regularly. I also try to have odd days without meat every couple of days and drink SO much water 💚

    1. I’ve always been an incredibly compassionate person so for me it was the biggest thing triggering my self hatred, but it will of course be different for everyone but it’s important to identify the cause regardless! x

  5. I feel like I should take a leaf out of your book and eat better, because I’ve been eating nothing but junk these past couple of weeks and I have been feeling awful. I’ve also been overworking which is definitely not helping how I feel about myself, so I need to fix that!

  6. Love this post, planning on doing a self love post for my next post! This post was lovely to read because I can relate so much especially about depression.

    Wish you all the best of the journey as it’s a continous one and sometimes a hard one!

    With Love Yossy x

  7. This resonates with me so much! I quit fizzy drinks and just the fact that it’s been two years since I had my last zip of Coca-Cola makes me so proud of myself!

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