I think I’ve been saying I’m 25 for a least the past month, just getting used to it a suppose? Anyway, this girl is officially now 25! Didn’t think I’d be spending my birthday in a global pandemic on a lockdown but hey ho.
I love listening to and reading these kind of posts so I thought I’d have a go at doing one myself. I’d like to think I’ve learned a lot over the past 25 years, but I guess you can be the judge of that.
1. Most of your friends will disappear.
Well that’s a depressing way to start but it’s true. I found amazing friends in college, do any of them still speak to me? Nope. Do I regret anything? Nope. The universe blessed me with this group of friends at exactly the right time and they healed me in ways I could never thank them enough for. Unfortunately people move on and get on with their own lives and that’s pretty much what happened when we all went to university. I speak to 1 friend from my childhood school years and I knew her before school so I don’t count her as a “school friend” and that’s just life for a lot of people. Luckily, most of my university girls are still about, but as life goes on, you’ll see many friendships grow and then fade. But new ones will always be around the corner, I’ve recently jumped into some new friendships and I’m loving it!
2. Comfort beats style every time.
I just do not have time to get home and take off uncomfortable shoes and then put up with sore feet all day anymore. Give me trainers over heels any day.
3. Not allowing yourself to enjoy what you like will make you miserable
Whether it’s a genre of music or a side hobby, if you keep trying to hold up some kind of cool front then you’ll only be miserable that you have to hide what you love. If you had told 16 year old me that I’d be listening to Harry Styles when I was 25 then I’d probably have called you a lier. But you know what, music tastes evolve and when you allow yourself to indulge in what you love, you’ll be in a much happier place.
4. Wash up as soon as you can
I still need to get better at this but it makes such a difference when you just wash up things after you’ve used them rather than leave them to ruin your morning the next day.
5. It’s okay to treat yourself
Buy yourself flowers! Take yourself out to dinner! Go see that movie you want to see regardless if no one wants to go with you!
6. Move on
When you get to 25 I feel like it’s more important than ever to just move on, there’s not enough time anymore to sit there wondering what could have been, what you did right, what you did wrong. It is what it is, move on.
7. Not everyone has the same view as you
I am very much accountable for this, I like to think I have a very level and fair view on situations and I find it difficult to accept that not everyone has my eyes. You’d like to think that by 25, most people would have matured but unfortunately that’s very much not the case. Sometimes you just have to accept it and like above, move on.
8. Pick your battles
Life is so much more stressful now than it was when I was in High School. When I was 14 I could spend hours arguing with people online, friends or not about sh*t I can’t even remember now. I do not have the emotional and mental capacity to do that anymore! You want to argue with me? Make your point then leave me alone because I won’t feed it anymore.
9. You can make what you want from life
You are 25, you want to change your career? Go do it. You want to move house? Go do it. You want to study something? Go do it.
Stop giving yourself grief by holding grudges. People mess up, but people can also learn and grow. Start forgiving and free yourself. Forgiveness is a strength, not a weakness.
11. You can eat an entire tub of ice cream if you want
You’re 25, no one can tell you you can’t eat a whole tub of ice cream anymore. Obviously I’d recommend not eating an entire tub every time, but you do you.
12. Follow your heart
By now, you’ve probably got an idea of what you want from life, relationships and friendships. You know what you need and what you want, follow your heart and go for it.
13. You probably need a Facebook cull
Why do you still have those people from school that you haven’t spoken to in 10 years still on your Facebook?
14. Get up before 10am
I’ve been setting an alarm for 8am every morning throughout quarantine, getting up and not wasting half the day in bed every day stops me feeling miserable. It’s amazing what you can get done by midday if you get up at a suitable time.
15. You don’t have to stay up late if you don’t want to
If you’re going to start getting up at a decent time then you’ll probably want to start going to bed earlier as well. Wanting a good night sleep doesn’t make you a party pooper.
16. Nightclubs are gross
I’ve never been a huge club person anyway but wow, I don’t think I’ve stepped foot in one for 3+ years and I don’t miss it at all. Give me a beer garden any day.
17. Your alcohol tolerance is lower than you thought it was
I can’t believe the amount I used to drink, give me 3 gins now and I’m done for the night.
18. Make your bed
It’s such an easy task yet it’s taken me nearly 25 years to adopt, but it’s worth it.
19. Don’t settle for anyone less than you deserve
And I mean in, I was full on ready to settle down in a relationship that was loveless and dead and now I’m in a happier pursuing things that I love supported by someone who loves me.
20. Focus on the positives
It’s so easy to get down with the negatives in life but honestly, do yourself a favour and look at the silver linings. There’s often nothing you can do about the negatives so they really aren’t worth your time.
21. Go and see your favourite band
I know gig tickets are getting more expensive and harder to get by the day, but if you can, go and see your favourite band. You’ll only regret it if you don’t.
22. It’s okay to have a bitch, but don’t be a bitch
Look, everyone needs a little bitch sometimes, and that’s okay. But be careful not to turn into a bitch, let it out, then get on with your life. Don’t go out of your way to make people, or yourself miserable.
23. Don’t be afraid to have a dance, even if it’s by yourself
Dancing is super fun. I can’t dance to save my life, but will I have a one person throw down whilst I’m making dinner? You bet. Will I feel great afterwards? Certainly.
24. Look after your body, and It’ll look after you
In the most part, if you look after your body, it tends to look after you. Drink more water (I still need to remember this), eat your fruit and vegetables and workout when you can.
25. Take notice of the world around you
Take time every day to step away from the digital world and enjoy the world around you. Time moves too quickly and before you know it, here we are. Don’t you wish you spent a little more time enjoying nature now? Never take our beautiful planet for granted.
Anyway, I hope these lessons may be helpful to some of you, and I hope some of you can relate with me on a few of them. What have you learnt at 25? Leave your lessons in the comments & stay safe x